As I write this post from my favorite cafe, there’s snow coming down and the weather guy tells us were in for two more days of it. It has me thinking about my current lifestyle. I’m one of those lucky folks that can work from anywhere. I almost never HAVE to go out.
It hasn’t always been this way. 8 years ago, I was the director of a small, innovative non-profit. While we were doing great work, the organization was barely making it financially and I was only earning about $30,000 per year. Given my experience and my responsibilities as a new dad, this was source of great frustration.
Part of me was ready for a change. I remember buying a book called, The Therapist as Life Coach. With my experience, I knew I had what it took to be a great coach. However, I couldn’t wrap my brain around how to attract clients. I started looking into coaching for this. I realized it was going to take thousands of dollars plus time to learn what I needed to know.
Staying the Same Costs $100,000’s
At this point, I did what many people do – I said, “I don’t have the money or the time for this.” I tried to put my dreams on the shelf and go on living the same small life.
When we really have a dream, it isn’t easy to sweep it under the rug. My abandoned intentions of helping more people and making an authentic 6 figure income festered. The energy came out in the form of frustration towards my then wife. I turned into one very unhappy camper.
My ex soon got tired of living with this negative guy. She kicked me out and started divorce proceedings. Over a short period of time, I lost EVERYTHING. I found myself alone in an efficiency apartment in a new city.
From my new perspecitve, I realized that my limiting beliefs around money had been operating my entire adult life – more than 20 years. I could see that if I had made a relatively small investment of money and time, I would likely have made a HUGE financial return in addition to the spiritual, physical and emotional ones.
In fact, multiplied over the period of my adult life, I could see that my decision to stay the same was the most expensive decision I had ever made.
What are the TRUE Costs?
Fortunately, the mess I describe above has had some incredible benefits. For instance, I was introduced to energy psychology tools like EFT – I don’t know how I would have survived the divorce without it. And, I finally sought out several coaches that helped me learn the mindset and marketing skills that I use in the work I do now.
In my work with clients today, I often hear about their thoughts and fears upon adding up the costs of what learning new skills are going to cost. In truth, I want you to do this figuring. I don’t want you to blindly commit to a process that is a major investment of time and money.
At the same time, I also want to you to honestly ask yourself the question, “What will it cost me if I stay the same?” Too many people add up the costs of change carefully while completely ignoring the fact that staying on the same track will also impact your life financially and otherwise.
How do the costs of change compare to the costs of staying on the same track you are on? Five years from now where will you be if you stay on exactly the road you are on right now? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the form of a comment below.