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One of my business goals for 2010 is to deepen my local network. Poet and corporate consultant David Whyte is fond of saying, “Sometimes the truth depends on a walk around the lake.” Having a trusted a colleague to stroll around the lake with can be just the thing to take things to the next level. Besides, hugs over Skype aren’t the same.

Last night, I put this intention into action by going to a new networking event.  I walked into a noisy crowd of over 70 people with only a few familiar faces.  As a relative introvert, this was a bit overwhelming.  Recognizing that overwhelm wasn’t going to lead to the results I was hoping for, I took a few moments to get centered.

As soon as I did, I noticed a friend I hadn’t seen and made my way over to her table.  When she saw me she said, “Oh my goodness!  We were just talking about you and EFT!“  Turns out, she was sitting with a colleague who has a consulting business.  This consultant had recently began experimenting with using EFT in her business and was thrilled to meet me. We spent much of the night having a high energy conversation about EFT and applying energy psychology in business settings.

Synchronicity is VERY Attractive

Back in the 1930’s, Carl Jung created the term “synchronicity” for events like what happened last night.  He observed, “when coincidences pile up in this way, one cannot help being impressed by them.“  Imagine being the woman I met last night and having someone who has experience with something that is a leading edge in your business manifest before your eyes.  How likely is it that you would forget that?

As I have increasingly cleared my own limiting beliefs, these type of ‘coincidences’ have been happening more and more often. And, my experience is that Jung is absolutely right – each time it happens, people are deeply moved.

How to Attract More Everyday Miracles

Now I don’t know anyone who can walk on water or conjure up a 7 course meal at the wave of her fingertips.  At the same time, I do see that conscious business owners often share this experience of marvelous surprises happening increasingly more often.  Are these accidents or is there anything we can do to increase how often they happen?

Let me be clear that I don’t think we can MAKE things like this happen.   What I think we can create are the conditions in our lives for synchronicity to happen more often.  Here are 3 strategies for infusing your success plan with more everyday magic:

1. Clear the beliefs about having to MAKE your success goals happen. In most business thought, there is an underlying belief that for you to succeed, you have to MAKE it happen.  Think of the term, “Self-made millionaire”.  When we buy into these understandings of success, we are setting ourselves up for stress and struggle.  My favorite way to clear these kinds of beliefs is with EFT, Money Matrix and other energy psychology tools.
2. Appreciate the synchronicity that has already happened in your life. Every one of us has had some experiences of synchronicity in our lives.  Prime your everyday miracle pump by bringing these experiences to mind with as much sensory details as you can.  Re-member literally means “to re-embody”.  Writing or drawing these experiences are a great way to do this. Also, be on the lookout for any little magical events that happen each day and appreciate the heck out of them.  Don’t limit yourself to the area of success and money – notice it in all areas of your life.
3. Invite More Magic Into Your Life. My favorite way to do this is with Law of Attraction tools like the Focus Wheel.  For instance, after last night’s experience, I did a Focus Wheel this morning on the theme of “There’s more and more everyday magic in my business.”  We can deliberately attract more of what we want in our life.

For thousands of years, spiritual people have observed that it is possible for us to increase our ability to be in what athletes call “The Zone”.  When we are in this state, both the number and the magnitude of the synchronicities in our lives go up.  Infusing your success plan with more of this energy is both fun and effective.

The other day, I was listening to a recording of Abraham-Hicks talking about their new book, The Vortex.  In the recording, they told the audience that Ester uses a particular Law of Attraction tool very often.  It’s called the Focus Wheel and they use it between 5 and 20 times each day.

Hearing that made me curious.  I did three the next morning on several aspects of my life.  That morning, I felt more aligned than I had in a long time.  My sessions with clients went exceptionally well and I received more success stories from clients that I hadn’t met with than I usually get in a whole week.  Let’s just say I’m inspired to keep playing with these things.

Here’s a video that explains what a Focus Wheel is and how to do one:

You can find a print out of the Focus Wheel by clicking here.

I’d love to hear how your experiments using Focus Wheels go.

Lately, I’ve been seeing the issue of impatience pop up in a number of sessions.  As in, “Why is it taking SO LONG for things to change?!?“  When a theme repeats like this, I know it’s time to write about it.  If you’ve ever felt like your success plan was taking too darn long, I encourage you to keep reading.

How Listening to A Park Bench Made One Man Wealthy

One of my favorite stories about the energy dynamics of change comes from the spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle.  Today, many people know him as Oprah’s friend and best selling author.  Many people don’t know that before he became famous, Eckhart Tolle was stuck and confused.  He didn’t have a stable home or job.

Eckhart knew he wanted a different life, but he didn’t know how.  One day sitting on a park bench, Eckhart had a realization that changed his life and brought incredible success.  He realized that he was spending a great deal of energy fighting the circumstances of his life. Though he didn’t want to be confused and jobless, he was.

Eckhart understood that the only way things were going to really change is if he could “surrender” and “walk through the doorway of NOW”.  That insight lead to a feeling of profound well-being so strong that people started to approach him for guidance.  His career as a spiritual teacher was born.

What’s Your Park Bench?

You don’t have to have to be almost homeless to have this stuck energy operating in your life.  For me, it was being in position of going through a divorce and being “just over broke” doing work I didn’t like.

In fact, there is a basic energy equation when we are feeling frustrated.  It is:

I’m frustrated that I’m here (in a place I don’t want to be) when I want to be there (in a place I want to be more).

Wanting change and success is a good thing.  At the same time, it’s difficult for success to flow smoothly with this kind of tension in your system.

Easing Into Success with EFT

Energy intelligent people will recognize that being in this state of tension and having your focus on what’s not working is going to attract more tension into your life.  Let’s take a look at how to shift into a place of being more ready for change with EFT (if you want to learn EFT basics, click here).

Frustration Sequence – The Problem

Karate Chop: Even though it feels like things are taking too long to change and I’m feeling impatient, I’m willing to be a little kinder and gentler with myself anyway.

Eyebrow: I don’t know why things in my life aren’t changing faster.
Side of eye: I’m feeling impatient with the pace of change in my life.
Under the eye: I’ve been working on change for some time now.
Under the nose: Why aren’t I further along?
Chin: It’s taking SO long.
Collarbone: I feel lots of pressure to change things NOW.
Under the arm: I don’t like how long this is taking.

Take a deep breath and give a moment for this tapping sequence to settle.

Frustration Sequence – The Solution

Karate Chop: Even though in the past it feels like things weren’t changing fast enough, I’m choosing to find a more relaxed relationship with change now.

Eyebrow: In the past, I was focusing on what wasn’t going well in terms of change.
Side of the eye: No wonder I was feeling so frustrated.
Under the eye: What would happen if I could find a way to release that pressure?
Under the nose: What if I COULD relax about the pace of change in my life?
Chin: I wonder if I could actually change faster if I didn’t feel so much pressure?
Collarbone: I give myself permission to experiment with releasing this pressure.
Under the arm: I’m excited to work towards my success goals in more relaxed way.

Take a deep breath and give a moment for this tapping sequence to settle.

Summing it up

One of the great paradoxes about life changes is that they tend to happen the fastest when we are in a state that athletes call “The Zone”.  Pushing gets in the way of this.  Instead, use your favorite clearing tool to release the frustration and struggle patterns.

Next, allow yourself to experiment.   What would it be like to allow yourself to work from the Zone more?  How are you already doing this?  I’d love to hear your thoughts in the form of a comment below.

Lately, I’ve been hearing myself say to clients repeatedly, “you need a prosperity buddy.”  When something keeps showing up like this, I know it’s time for a blog post.  In this post, I want to share with you what a prosperity buddy (also known as a mastermind buddy) is, where to find one and what to do once you have one.

It's more fun with a buddy!

What the heck is a prosperity buddy?

The biggest lesson most success seekers need to learn is how to consistently nurture their deepest desires.  Honestly, most of us aren’t very good at doing this.  This is why most abundance programs fail – they don’t teach us how to do the kind of ongoing tending that real success needs.

A prosperity or mastermind buddy is a deliberately chosen friend who we agree to get together with regularly and nurture each other’s success intentions.

Buddies set aside time, usually either weekly or bi-monthly, to trade experiences of sharing honestly about what their dreams are and work on releasing the limiting beliefs and feelings that are getting in the way of manifesting those dreams.  My favorite way of releasing the gunk that’s blocking success is with EFT.

Where the heck do I find a prosperity buddy?

“OK, sounds good Paul,” you may say, “but where do I FIND a prosperity buddy?”  Notice that in the above section, I underlined the idea that buddies are deliberately created. I’m going to share several ideas of where you can find a prosperity buddy below.  At the same time, keep in mind that for the process to work well, you need to have a buddy that you feel comfortable sharing emotional and financial information with.  Selecting a prosperity buddy is a great time to use your spiritual awareness and intuitive skills.

That said, here are 5 places to find a prosperity buddy:

1. Among people you already know and trust. Some of you already know people who would make great prosperity buddies.  Perhaps you have a friend, colleague or acquaintance you trust and believe would be open to this kind of ongoing supportive relationship.  Avoid trying to be a buddy with someone you are in a romantic relationship with.
2. The readers of this blog. People who read and comment on this blog tend to be spiritual and fun success seekers who are familiar with EFT and the Law of Attraction.  They also tend to know other people who fit this description.   Feel free to leave a comment that you’re looking for a buddy.
3. The forums at the main EFT website (www.emofree.com).  A number of my clients have found prosperity tapping buddies by connecting with people in these forums.  Specifically, there is a forum called “Abundance” which is focused on using EFT for money and success issues.
4. TappingBuddies.com While the activity on this site is less than what I wish it were, this site is focused on helping people find tapping buddies.
5. Social Network sites. Facebook, Twitter, Linked In and other such sites ROCK!  I met my awesome Mastermind buddy, Sejual Shah, this way.  Through the magic of these sites, you have the opportunity to get to know someone in a safe and easy manner.  Once you meet someone you like the energy of, invite them to have a conversation to get to know them better.  If you get a good sense of the person, then bring up the idea of becoming prosperity buddies.

I’ve got a buddy.  What the heck do we do now?

Here’s the 6 steps to creating a good prosperity buddy relationship:

1. Start with appreciation. Appreciate your buddy and yourself for doing this.  Appreciation goes a long way towards creating the kind of safe and fun environment that will serve you well over time.
2. Leave judgment at the door. Your role is not to judge or fix your buddy.  Instead, help your buddy clear the blocks and track the progress that she is making over time.  Deep listening is also extremely valuable.
3. Agree to a regular meeting schedule. Remember the whole point of this relationship is to create an environment of consistent nurturing.  Most buddies meet either every week or bi-monthly.
4. Check in – from the heart. At the start of each meeting, take turns doing a short (3-4 minutes) check in.  Be authentic about what you are noticing in relationship to your deepest success dreams.  Pay particular attention to the emotions – that’s the key to where the energy is for you.
5. Use energy tools to remove the blocks. Once you’ve both checked in, decide whose turn it will be that meeting to do clearing work.   It’s best to devote a meeting to one person’s issues (alternating works great).  Use EFT or another energy tool to clear the blocks that are getting in the way of your success dreams.  Feel free to contact me if you need help learning to do this.
6. With the blocks out of the way, explore what action step you are inspired to do. Once the blocks are out of the way, aligned actions steps will naturally appear.  No pushing or heavy handed advice giving needed.

I hope this post inspires you create a prosperity or mastermind buddy relationship in your life.  In comparing notes with the dozens of prosperity and success coaches I know, our collective experience is that this is one of the most important predictors of people who actually MANIFEST their success dreams.

One of the Law of Attraction tools that is most helpful to my clients is the The Emotional Scale.  It’s from the Abraham-Hicks books, Ask And It Is Given. I often have client’s print out a copy and post it in a place where they will see it several times a day – like their desk, on the door of the fridge or a bathroom mirror.  It’s a great tool to become more mindful of our daily energetic state.

Click here to get a printable copy of The Emotional Scale

If you don’t need a printout:

The Emotional Scale

1)  Joy/Knowledge/Empowerment/Freedom/Love/Appreciation
2)  Passion
3)  Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
4)  Positive expectation/Belief
5)  Optimism
6)  Hopefulness
7)  Contentment
8)  Boredom
9)  Pessimism
10) Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
11) Overwhelment
12) Disappointment
13) Doubt
14) Worry
15) Blame
16) Discouragement
17) Anger
18) Revenge
19) Hatred/Rage
20) Jealousy
21) Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
22) Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness