January 12th, 2010 | 
Author: Lately, I’ve been seeing the issue of impatience pop up in a number of sessions. As in, “Why is it taking SO LONG for things to change?!?“ When a theme repeats like this, I know it’s time to write about it. If you’ve ever felt like your success plan was taking too darn long, I encourage you to keep reading.
How Listening to A Park Bench Made One Man Wealthy
One of my favorite stories about the energy dynamics of change comes from the spiritual teacher Eckhart Tolle. Today, many people know him as Oprah’s friend and best selling author. Many people don’t know that before he became famous, Eckhart Tolle was stuck and confused. He didn’t have a stable home or job.
Eckhart knew he wanted a different life, but he didn’t know how. One day sitting on a park bench, Eckhart had a realization that changed his life and brought incredible success. He realized that he was spending a great deal of energy fighting the circumstances of his life. Though he didn’t want to be confused and jobless, he was.
Eckhart understood that the only way things were going to really change is if he could “surrender” and “walk through the doorway of NOW”. That insight lead to a feeling of profound well-being so strong that people started to approach him for guidance. His career as a spiritual teacher was born.
What’s Your Park Bench?
You don’t have to have to be almost homeless to have this stuck energy operating in your life. For me, it was being in position of going through a divorce and being “just over broke” doing work I didn’t like.
In fact, there is a basic energy equation when we are feeling frustrated. It is:
I’m frustrated that I’m here (in a place I don’t want to be) when I want to be there (in a place I want to be more).
Wanting change and success is a good thing. At the same time, it’s difficult for success to flow smoothly with this kind of tension in your system.
Easing Into Success with EFT
Energy intelligent people will recognize that being in this state of tension and having your focus on what’s not working is going to attract more tension into your life. Let’s take a look at how to shift into a place of being more ready for change with EFT (if you want to learn EFT basics, click here).
Frustration Sequence – The Problem
Karate Chop: Even though it feels like things are taking too long to change and I’m feeling impatient, I’m willing to be a little kinder and gentler with myself anyway.
Eyebrow: I don’t know why things in my life aren’t changing faster.
Side of eye: I’m feeling impatient with the pace of change in my life.
Under the eye: I’ve been working on change for some time now.
Under the nose: Why aren’t I further along?
Chin: It’s taking SO long.
Collarbone: I feel lots of pressure to change things NOW.
Under the arm: I don’t like how long this is taking.
Take a deep breath and give a moment for this tapping sequence to settle.
Frustration Sequence – The Solution
Karate Chop: Even though in the past it feels like things weren’t changing fast enough, I’m choosing to find a more relaxed relationship with change now.
Eyebrow: In the past, I was focusing on what wasn’t going well in terms of change.
Side of the eye: No wonder I was feeling so frustrated.
Under the eye: What would happen if I could find a way to release that pressure?
Under the nose: What if I COULD relax about the pace of change in my life?
Chin: I wonder if I could actually change faster if I didn’t feel so much pressure?
Collarbone: I give myself permission to experiment with releasing this pressure.
Under the arm: I’m excited to work towards my success goals in more relaxed way.
Take a deep breath and give a moment for this tapping sequence to settle.
Summing it up
One of the great paradoxes about life changes is that they tend to happen the fastest when we are in a state that athletes call “The Zone”. Pushing gets in the way of this. Instead, use your favorite clearing tool to release the frustration and struggle patterns.
Next, allow yourself to experiment. What would it be like to allow yourself to work from the Zone more? How are you already doing this? I’d love to hear your thoughts in the form of a comment below.
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Paul,
I’d be really interested to know the cumalative effects of a tapping such as this. I think there must be so many aspects or sides to an issue like this.
What if you were to tap on this daily for the next month? How much change could be achieved and I suppose how quickly?
If you tapped on this for the next 30 days, would you come to realise that actually, when your goal turns up it is the right time and being impatience has actually held to back from me.?
Nothing like a good paradox!
Happy Travels
A
Great comment Andrew! Yes, I agree that there are often many aspects (side issues) that contribute to coming to a stuck place. For those who are self-motivated, daily self tapping is awesome. Personally, I tend to have difficulty tracking progress and get bored trying to do it myself. I prefer to have a prosperity buddy to work with.
Thanks for chiming in with another insight addition. I’m really enjoying getting to know you.
Much love,
Paul
This was so good to read. I agree with Andrew – great idea to tap on it for a period of time. And like Paul, I lose focus and get bored. I was just thinking that doing a gratitude journal and then tapping every morning on those five things I am grateful for would really get me in the zone. If I actually do it, I will add a round of this impatience tapping – and I’ll report back in in 30 days….
Jill,
Thanks for the reminder of a gratitude journal and gratitude tapping. These are powerful – and very under utilized success tools. For instance, Bill Baren (http://www.BillBaren.com) has a THRIVING coaching practice – he has 4 coaches that work for him because he has so many clients. Bill is very public about the fact that his “secret” is every day he writes down what he appreciates about his clients. Powerful stuff ..
Much love and appreciation,
Paul
Fantastic – this is encouraging me. I know it can only be an excellent experiment. Maybe I’ll focus on what I am grateful for in my business.
Let us know how your experiment goes Jill. I appreciate your willingness to consider this energy intelligent approach to building your biz.
I am just getting into EFT, and am very interested and hopeful that it can make a difference in my life. I enjoyed your article, and have one question. In summing it up, you said “use your favorite clearing tool to release the frustration and struggle patterns.”
Can you give some examples of clearing tools?
Thanks so much,
Traci
Welcome to EFT Traci! I trust that if you go beyond the basics and play with the deeper wisdom in the EFT tools, there’s a VERY good chance you will see the results you are looking for. At the same time, we have always been taught that EFT is “a way, not THE way” by founder Gary Craig. There are many other energetic clearing tools from the Sedona Method to Matrix Reimprinting to Reiki to Be Set Free Fast and untold others. Ultimately, I want to inspire you to do the deep work whether EFT is useful for you or not.
Hope that helps!
Warmly,
Paul
Paul, thanks for your response. I don’t know what clearing tools are, so I’ll “google” the examples that you gave. I’m sure EFT will be helpful to me. I do other kinds of work, like affirmations, visualizations, meditation, and I also visual journaling–which is visual self expression (as a way of being self-reflective and gaining insight), combining 2-d mixed-media with writing. So I see EFT as something that goes along with the other things I already do. Thanks!
The results are in. I did a gratitude journal for my business and (almost) every morning wrote 5 things I am grateful for about my business. Then I would do some tapping on each item – to get to the point where I was really feeling it, rather than glossing over as I’ve done in the past with other gratitude journals. (I spent about 10 minutes each morning on it.) The results were fabulous and instantaneous. I had an instant energy lift in my day, far more clarity and a sense of well being. (I did miss some mornings and those days were lower energy and less fulfilling days.) It really was quite dramatic – and even more so given the minimal effort I put into it. By the way, I made my sales goals for the month of February and had some pivotal and memorable business opportunities come up. I can’t help but attribute at least part of the successes to the morning ritual. I think I’ll start another round for March!
Jill,
I’m so glad to hear about your success! 10 minutes a day – sounds like a pretty awesome return on your investment! Thanks for updating us on your success journey.