September 9th, 2009 | 
Author: I just got off the phone with Chip Engelmann, an EFT and Law of Attraction Coach and a friend of mine. In addition to planning an exciting teleclass series we’ll be offering soon, we also spoke about the most frequent request we both hear in terms of EFT for Abundance – that is “How do I know what to tap on?” It got me thinking that about the need for a blog post that gives you some insight into how experienced EFTers help their clients zero in on specific abundance blocks.
Here’s the three best ways to help you know what to tap on when you’re using EFT for Abundance:
Abundance blocks can feel like The Great Wall
1) Using the Tailender Technique. In EFT language, your tailenders are the “Yeah, but ..” part of an affirmation. In other words, they are like an industrial strength rubber band tied around your waist that holds you back from making progress towards what you want. In the Using the Tailender Technique, you deliberate explore your tailenders and find the issues that need clearing by doing so.
Start by finding a clear money affirmation that is a) believable and b) exciting to you. For instance, “I easily and consistently make $100,000 per year.” Once you have your affirmation, take 3 deep breaths. Notice how your body feels and what thought are going through your mind. This is your baseline.
Now, say your affirmation out loud, “I easily and consistently make $100,000 per year.” Notice what happens in your body. Say it out loud again. This time notice what thoughts go through your mind. The body sensations and thoughts that happen after you say the affirmation usually have the energy of constriction. These are your tailenders, the things that block you from creating more abundance.
For a moment, I ask you to relax your resistance towards your tailenders. Be willing to explore them. What does that body sensation remind you of? Who does that negative thought bring to mind? Through a curious exploration of your tailenders, you can find the core issues that are limiting your ability to be more successful in an authentic way. Once you know the core issues, you on them.
2) Clear by the Numbers. Chip Engelmann has developed a technique where he has clients explore their feelings about making different amounts of money. In this approach, you start with an amount that feels comfortable to you. For instance, suppose you currently earn $30,000 per year. You would state, “I easily and consistently earn $30,000 per year.” Then, you notice how that feels. You keep increasing the amount until you notice some discomfort. For instance, suppose $40,000 feels comfortable but you notice a feeling of “I don’t think so” when you say “I easily and consistently earn $50,000 per year.” Explore that feeling of “I don’t think so”. Notice where you feel it in your body and who it reminds you of. Then tap on these issues.
3) Clearing your Money Matrix. My favorite way to find your blocks is Money Matrix work. Your Money Matrix is the energetic web that determines your current relationship with money. It is a combination of the important feelings, beliefs and relationships that you have with money. When we are not experiencing the kind of success that we want, it’s often because our Money Matrix is being influenced by negative energies.
Below is the simple 4 step exercise I use with clients to help them understand their current energetic relationship with money and to know what to tap on when applying EFT for abundance. Here are the four steps:
- Take 3 clearing and centering breaths. The purpose of this is to help you relax your system and increase your ability to be aware. With each breath, find yourself becoming a bit more relaxed and more of attention available in the present moment.
- Imagine that you are in a room with money. It’s a simple room, comfortably furnished. Notice where money is in relationship to you. Is it to one side, in the front, outside the room, etc? Take a minute to notice what you what you see in your mind’s eye.
- Notice who or what else is in the room with you. After you have a sense of who and what these presences are, notice where these other presences (people or things) are in relationship to you and to money. For instance, one client felt a 3 inch plate glass wall that was between her and money. Notice what you what you see in your mind’s eye.
- Notice the feelings in your body about your current Money Matrix. Your Money Matrix is encoded into the cells of your body. Paying attention to the feeling in the snapshot you see is a powerful way to access your code. What do you notice in your body and on a feeling level as you view this picture in your mind’s eye? Once you know what your current Money Matrix looks like, you can use EFT to clear what is in the way and allow money to come much more easily into your life.
It’s rare that a mechanical application of EFT leads to abundance results. These three techniques about allow people who are new to EFT for abundance or haven’t yet seen the success they want to get a much better picture of what to tap on. Because abundance is a whole lot easier to move towards without the Great Wall of China in the way.
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Tags: attracting abundance, EFT, EFT for Abundance, money mindset
Great post, Paul. Those are all awesome and powerful techniques. Another one I like to use to get at tail-enders is to ask the person I’m working with to vividly imagine, in as much detail as possible, having their “end result” (whether that’s a lifestyle with a ton of money or complete and total physical wellbeing). It often leads us straight to a core issue that needs to be addressed. I was pretty surprised that I found a real “doozy” doing this on one of my own issues quite recently, something I had already done a LOT of tapping on!
Thanks for the honorable mention. Part of the technique mention deals with a larger picture–that we have a financial comfort zone. Go too low and you will fell discomfort as well. From a Law of Attraction point of view this can be comforting for people going through a low point. If you go below your comfort zone your mind/emotions/vibrations will automatically kick in and raise you back into that comfort zone.
keep up the good posts. I enjoy reading them.
Nice Paul! I know from experience what the exercises do with a person
Highly recommended!
The step by step explorative enquiry Chip uses is a great tool, I am certainly going to try that out in my coaching sessions. I can see how that would work with kids with ADD symptoms: They certainly do not want to be Zombie-like (many of them experienced that taking Ritalin etc) – so that might be their fear when I “take their activity away!” Finding a comfortable level of being sensitive & active is key.
Keep writing & sharing!
Thanks for your input Karen. And great suggestion about visualizing the desired result and using this to find the tailender. Appreciate you and your wisdom very much Karen. Anyone who hasn’t checked out Karen’s site, http://www.bodyjoywitheft.com, I highly recommend it.
Well said Chip. That’s the problem when I try to paraphrase you – I miss some of your subtle wisdom. :~) I hadn’t thought about how the low point also can be comforting. Thanks for sharing. In case anyone doesn’t know, Chip and I often collaborate (and we laugh together once in a while too). He rocks!
Hey Charlotte, thanks for the shout out. Wow – all kinds of creative ideas seem to be flowing from this post. Never thought of applying this to kids and ADD. Makes perfect sense. I’d appreciate it if you’d let me know how it goes incorporating this into your ADD work. Much love, Paul
Wow! LOL… I plopped myself out in that room full of money all happily right on top of a pile of bills and coins…looked around and then IMMEDIATELY jumped off the pile. It was all full of germs and gross stuff. Must come from working at a bank in my past or something. Always needing to wash my hands after handling it and all. Who knew where all that stuff had been. ;o)
Anyhow…I used the choices method and tapped on “Even though I think money is gross and germy…I choose to appreciate it for it’s financial value” a few rounds. The next time I imagined myself in that room full of money, I was lounged out on top of a bunch of dollar signs instead of bills and coins. Much better! Thanks!
Thanks for sharing Becky and good work! It’s fun to see what starts to happen in our lives as well “clean up” our money relationship.
Had to give this feedback. my relationship with money exercise above.
Wow.
In my visualisation. I saw myself standing in a room of money there were stacks of it in piles all around he room nothing else just me and the money. I was in the centre of th room and the money was evenly stacked against the walls. Each time I WENT OVER TO THE MONEY AND PICKED I UP I was able to count it and hold it. It felt ok but there was something stopping me from putting into my pocket. Then you suggest to notice who else was is the room with me, well at first I THOUGHT NO ONE, BUT BEHIND THE GLASS AT THE FAR END OF THE ROOM BEHIND ME WAS SOMEONE, they were watching to see if I would take the money! no matter where I walked they were looking, just to see if I would take the money. Of course, I reaslised, it was other peoples money. not mine. As a petty pilferer (taking pennies and extra tips etc) I understand that my emotional block is about me believing that the only way I would get money for myself was to steal it! so of course someone was there to see if I would take it, cos usually thats what would go on in my mind. As this became apparent in this exercise I started to cry, the tears fell easily and I started to sob, the overwhelming realisation that I could have abundance for myself I didn’t need to take or have someones elses money, I could have this for myself. This also made understand the ideas I have about my own self worth. I am worthy of abundance in my own right. I do not need others money, (bank loans, Borrowed, bequeathed monies, petty pilfered money) to receive abundance. I’m worthy of having this for myself. once I stopped the crying and calmed myself down, I tapped for clearing of the negative attitude I have about being not worthy. and look forward to my own abundance and wealth right now, I deserve it. I am worth it. Thanks M.
Marg,
Thanks for sharing your experience. The belief that “it’s other people’s money, not mine” is one that comes up often in this exercise. Sounds like you tapped on it. I would test by saying loud, “It’s OK for me to have my own money.” See what comes up with this – if there are remaining negative emotions, tap on these.
I would also suggest exploring who the person behind the glass was.
Appreciate your sharing Marg.
Paul
This was an eye opener for me. As I pictured the room full of money,I saw piles of it on a table in front of me,I could touch it,I even felt it.Then I had a memory of my father punishing me as a child for spending my own money,I never understood why I was punished for spending money that was mine in the first place. This is probably the reason I get a sick feeling when I spend money.
Jodi,
Glad this was helpful. Now that you now the feelings are connected to that event, tap on them. It will open the possibility of a whole new kind of relationship with money for you.
Let us know how it goes.
Paul
Hi Paul
Loved this exercise and just worked through some serious scarcity issues. In that room, I just couldn’t believe what was seeing, beautiful furniture but I had to look under the opulent sofas and in the silver dish to find any cash…I really thought I had a more abundant mindset than this after all the Millionaire mind courses, I have just done. It could just reflect my own present and temporary situation where I am not presently earning and more and more in need of getting some money coming in…Nobody else was there. Such an interesting exercise. Thank you.
Latisses
Latisses,
I’m glad the exercise was helpful. Being able to feel “in your bones” what your money mindset is allows you to work from a place of being informed. Use your EFT tools to allow things to shift.
Much love,
Paul
Dear Paul, this is a great way of learning about our attitude towards money. I had my image but I dont know what to do about it now.
I was comfortably sitting in a very beautiful and cosy room. On the right hand side, there was a pile of money on the table. Small pile, not a big one.
1) first, I thought that it wasnt enough money.
2) when I asked myself if I could have all this money, I thought that people would think of me as I am greedy and they would be jealous. So as if it wasnt OK to have lots of money.
What do I do about it now? Do I tap on these? Isnt general?
Thank you for your kind support.
Hi Jana,
Thanks for sharing your experience and your welcome. Sounds like your blocks are:
1) Only greedy people have money.
2) If I have more money, people would be jealous of me.
They are two separate issues. Take them one at a time and do a little detective work. For instance, who does the message “Only greedy people have money” remind you of? What are the feelings around this statement? Once you know who and what contributed to this writing on your walls, then you tap on those specifics.
I haven’t done the exercise yet, but am already having results just from reading here and from the Universe setting me up ahead of time. Where I work we have someone who constantly donates things, money and time. He takes needy people out and buys them clothes, shoes, etc. Yesterday someone mentioned that he must be pretty well off to be able to do this. The first thought through my mind was “Yeah, and you know he didn’t get there by being Mr. Nice Guy.” and something to the effect that you have to be pretty nasty to get rich.
Reading the responses to your post, I heard my folks talking about never having enough money, things, etc. and was back in one of my first jobs when my mother took all my money. When I protested, she said since they clothed & fed me and took care of me all my life, I was being selfish by not giving it to her cheerfully.
On the heels of that was my very first summer job – I was to put half of each paycheck in a savings account to pay for a car – which my mother cleaned out because they needed something, I don’t remember what. She promised I’d have it back when I was ready to buy the car. I did, but she was very upset with me because I asked for it.
Wow, I didn’t even realize these things still bothered me, but I can feel my insides shaking right now, with tears very close to the surface. No wonder I feel that as soon as I get some money, something happens to take it away from me.
Judith – who apologizes for being so longwinded.
Judith,
Thanks for sharing. Sounds like there’s lots of tapping material there! Clear these negative emotions and your money vibration with shift naturally and easily.
With much love,
Paul