As I rode my bicycle this crisp morning, I was feeling incredibly grateful. There is so much goodness happening in my life. For instance, I recently got engaged! And because both my business and Francesca’s are growing, we moved into a bigger house with plenty of space for both of our businesses.
I’m feeling fit, well-loved and successful. And I appreciate this deeply because it hasn’t always been this way.
In fact, there was a time I was a pretty sure that I wasn’t ever going to be in good shape, have a successful business and be in a passionate relationship at the same time. While I wanted it all very much, I doubted that it was going to happen.
In EFT, we call these the “Yeah, buts ..” or tailenders. I want to encourage you to be bold for a moment. I want to you write down what you really want. Let it rip! What would your version of “having it all” be? Write down your answer to:
I want to have it all and to me that means _______.
Take a moment to notice what you really want. Feel what it would be like to live this way.
You have inside of you a part that is focused on keeping you safe. And because going for what you want means stepping out of your comfort zone, this part gets nervous about big change. Here are a few common ones:
“Yes, but I don’t want to disappointed.”
“Yes, but I have to be realistic.”
“Yes, but I have been hurt before when I wanted something.”
You can have the lasting change you want if you are willing to learn more about what this part is afraid of. What past hurts is it carrying? What is it afraid will happen if you start to make progress towards what you really want?
Once you understand better, then you can use EFT much more effectively. You can try setup phrases like:
“Even though I don’t want to be disappointed and so I haven’t made progress on what I really want, I accept myself anyway.”
“Even though I feel it’s unrealistic to want it all, I willing to treat myself with kindness and compassion anyway.”
“Even though I have been hurt before when I really wanted something, I choose to believe I can have what I want now.”
No matter how much we’d like to have something in our life, it’s not likely to happen if our vibration is doubt or pessimism. Instead, use EFT on the doubt and you will natural see your energy start to shift. When it does, the path forward towards more of what you want will become much clearer.
I’d love to hear your experience with using EFT to clearing away doubt in the form of a comment below.
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Paul, rethinking the fear of “disappointment” – or reconditioning our belief about it I should say – is something I often talk about. When we learn to see disappointment as something that can happen in life and not feel ashamed or rejected, we can feel what we feel and try again. Also, I’ve found if I live in a state of trust for my highest good, that I can adjust quickly and not get attached to what I desire. Having dreams, hopes and desires keep us growing and expanding. The fear of disappointment is something that is over-emphasized and I believe is unwittingly conditioned into us. Just try again and/or move on. Thanks for your post!
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Valencia,
Thanks for our recent connection. I’ve enjoyed getting to know and you were one of the inspirations for this post. I love your comments! The fear of being disappointed or rejected again is major block. No matter much we might WANT a rich and juicy life, if we don’t BELIEVE it’s possible than it’s not going to happen. Folks like you and me can help clear those limiting beliefs. When the desire is strong and there’s little resistance, your have it all life can manifest much more easily!